So, I know my Banky W fever is officially over, but there's no denying that he's a pretty good-looking man, makes wonderful music, and has a head that I want to rub when I eventually meet him. In the studio. Yeah, I said it. But all that aside, I grew a new dimension of respect for Banky about a year and a half ago. While replying fan tweets on twitter, someone tweeted him and asked, "Have you ever looked at your ex and wondered if you were drunk the entire relationship?" The question didn't earn my respect, but the answer did. "I look at my ex and wonder if SHE was drunk the entire relationship." That was Banky's reply. (Disclaimer - the words are not verbatim as they were written. Its been a year and a half. I can't retrieve the tweets.)
Anybody could have said that, yeah? Then anybody would have earned my respect. Unfortunately, anybody didn't. It's not rocket science to notice how the vast majority of people talk about their ex's. "If I saw my ex, I'd still hit that...with a bus." "Oh, I hear you're dating my ex. You want my sandwich too? Seems like you enjoy getting my leftovers." "I saw my ex's new girl/man. Such a downgrade." "Wow. He could have done better. She's so uglyyyy." The one quote about giving "used toys to the less fortunate" just makes me want to puke. Seriously, we're stillll on that?! Unfortunately, yes.
People fall in love, and people break up. You fall in love, and you break up. Every experience is a story that becomes part of the journey that you're walking. I don't understand why anyone would choose to remain in shallow privative speech. Granted, not every relationship turns out the way we would want it too. Sometimes you end up getting a lot more hurt and pain than you would have ever bargained for in a short lifetime. But let's face it. There's going to be a girl that's prettier than you, one than has more money, one that wears nicer clothes, one that's more attractive, one that you wish you could be... and that may be the one your ex decides to date right after you. There's going to be a guy with a nicer six pack, a better car or job, a nicer personality, a lot more handsome, one who wears the best suits, wristwatches and shoes... and that may be the one your ex decides to date right after you.
Shit talking ex significant others does NOTHING for you. Take it, or well, leave it. I'm just rendering my opinion in space that i have created for that exact purpose. They may have done you dirty, but making them look bad through your speech for as long as you live doesn't undo what was done, and sooner or later, you begin to seem like a needy lowlife seeking unnecessary and unwarranted attention, just to prove that you got it all together and are better than the other person. It's okay to say things didn't end well, and explain why. What I greatly disagree with is all the negative talk about the persons choices, physical appearance, and just even life in general just because they are no longer with you. Seriously, ain't nobody got time for that. Live YOUR life, and although it could be hard as a hammer, try to move on. Try to stay positive and try to let your speech reflect that.
I haven't been in perfect relationships. So I'm not saying all this because I haven't been hurt by someone that I had feelings for. I mean, who hasn't been, right? But trust me, there are girls prettier than me with a lot more money, exposure, style, charisma, etc. And I'd be happy if my ex's hit a jackpot with one of those. I'd say I set a standard they had to beat, and be proud of them and wish them the best, hoping I find a jackpot of my own.
I would never have known how Banky W would reply that tweet. But he had a chance to tell basically the whole world that his ex girlfriend was shit, and he didn't. He put himself right back in her shoes. So I respect this man as an artist. But its so many of the little things that tell you who these people are apart from music. I may not know Banky on a personal level, but with just a few words, he earned a little more of my respect. I'd rub his head a second longer. :-)
Do you really have to put out someone's light to make yours shine brighter? Do you? Think about it.
That is stilllllll on that!... as i do it.
~***shanpepe***~
